Bird People

I was at my place of employment last week when some customers came through pushing their greater sulphur crested cockatoo in one of those cool bird strollers. I dropped everything I was supposed to be doing and went over to greet them. The owners could barely get a word in as their bird gave me a detailed description of his day, his family’s day and the whole history of the universe starting with the big bang. The chattiest bird I have ever met.

As I walked back to my work, I overheard a customer say: “That’s the most ridiculous contraption I have ever seen. Can you imagine spending money on something so frivolous in this economy??” I quietly said: “But the bird was so happy to be out and about.” The customer shot back with: “That’s my point! IT’S A BIRD!”

I could feel the eyes of my co-workers on me as they waited for me to launch into a lecture about bird’s rights. I did not. I never once pointed out the error in her thinking as she bought a $450 gown to wear to the Captain’s ball on her upcoming cruise; a necessity in these hard times, I’m sure. But, the customer is always right. Even when they’re wrong.

I share a wonderful relationship with my co-workers. They accept me for who I am and simply regard my thing for birds as an eccentricity. In return for letting me be me, I don’t bore them with bird related conversation. When I am asked why I love parrot so much, I have learned to keep my answers short: “They’re beautiful.” “They’re funny.” “They’re smart.” Anything more than that results in glazed-over eyes and a polite “Excuse me. I think I hear someone calling me.”

If I were able to hold the average Joe’s attention for long enough to give the real reason that I love parrots, I  would probably find myself at a loss for words. What DOES make a bird person tick? Why do we put up with the noise, the mess and the expense?  Why do we struggle to find the answers to the myriad of problems we face? Why do we care so deeply?

For me, it’s the personal and spiritual growth I have experienced in the company of birds. Even as I sit here in front of a computer, in an air conditioned house, they make me feel in touch with nature. I think the thing which strikes me most deeply is the ongoing battle to communicate. The idea that two completely different species of beings would expend so much effort trying to find the means to express themselves is deeply touching to me. As life changes, so do the tasks in finding a meeting of the minds. Then one day, you look your bird in the eyes and know you both understand. There’s nothing like that feeling.

Running a close second is my need to obtain knowledge about them. I know I will never reach the point where I say to myself: “I have learned enough. I can be an exceptional bird owner knowing what I know now.”  This is not good enough for me. I will always be searching to learn more and, fortunately, advances in science keep me well stocked with opportunities.

The noise? The mess? The expense? Whatever.These minor inconveniences are trivial in comparison to what I gain everyday because I am fortunate enough to share my life with parrots.

What drives your passion for birds?

Author Patty Jourgensen specializes in avian health, behavior and nutrition and has been working with and caring for rescue birds since 1987.

11 comments

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Bill Shenefelt

We had a wild caught mitered conure. She allowed us to live with her for 28 years but then passed. Now we have a hand raised baby blue crown conure. He is very talkative and knows what he is saying. Our mitered did too but it was hard to decypher what she said. Since we knew her so well we could usually figure out what she was saying even if it was not clearly a human word. No mistaking the blue crown though. When something tastes good, he says “that’s good” When we offer him something new he asks “is it good?” He has about a 15 expression vocabulary so far and it is real communication. There is some alone practice of his sayings but when we are there it is a communication effort. Birds are as much a part of a family as a pet dog and usually even more in need of social interaction. A child is at home for maybe 18 years which is LESS than a pet parrot.

Bill Shenefelt
Patricia Jessup

Reading the extremely entertaining article about the chatty bird in the stroller,I simply have to put in my two cents worth .I was aghast at the reactionof the joyless Grinches who loubly complained about the frovolity of wasting money on strollers for a parrot. SHESH! eVERY person who owns a parrot knows that they’e not just ‘birds’ – they’e little miniature humans with distinct personality and minds and wills ( and moods!) of their own.To those miserable wwet blankets who were unable to enjoy and appreciate the intelligence and humor of this utterly delightful cockatoo, I can only echo Donna’s sentiments – ’ Shut the f**k up!!’ There’s little enough joy in the world -

Patricia Jessup
Petra Coffs Harbour Australia

Candice, your beautiful indepth story brought tears to my eyes. Your bird Ares has put you on a lovely path with your choosen career. I wish you every success .

Petra Coffs Harbour Australia
Patty

Candice, The connections we have with our birds never cease to astound me. I can’t tell you the number of accounts I have heard where people’s birds are literally the thing that keeps them going everyday. And now yours. Thanks for sharing your touching story. Patty

Patty
Susanna van Greunen

What other animal greets you in your own language? What other animal or human for that matter will unconditionally love you, choose you over their own kind and coo at you when sad, laugh with you at some funky jokes or pictures, because you laugh? Who will sit on your shoulders, flap their wings to cool you down even though unintentionally? Who will call you when they cannot see you? Fly over or walk if they can’t fly to find you wherever you are and then greet you like they have not seen you in ages? I am sure I can go on but most of you know how that feels ….

Susanna van Greunen
michaun

spouses, do Not understand,,,nor do they try very much,,,,,I suppose it was my gramps who, had traded a lincoln continental for his umbrella cockatoo,, then the amazon was always there,, mich, go clean the bird cage,,lol and i still have his amazon~although he has passed,, he did alot of things wrong with the first amazon, he died at 25 when i was 25, so i got him another, 3 months later he started to have strokes, and could no longer take care of sammi, so, i have him.hes 16 now~ he’s my eagle boy,,, and as always my life will revolve around him.and BoBo the grey,,

michaun
Tina

Thanks Patty, for sharing what is also in my own heart, for these wonderful creations. Some times I just scratch my head because I don’t understand why so many think of them so much LESS than other animals and most I contact, think they are a nuisance. I would rather spend my time with my bird than people, most of the time. Eccentric? maybe :) but Happy? absolutely!

Tina
Candice C

I can’t remember was drove me into begging my parents when I was 14-15 to let me get a bird. I suppose it was because I was reaching a low point in my young life, suffering with a not-yet-fully-controlled anxiety disorder, not-fully-understood thyroid disease and severe clinical depression. My mom and I sat down and researched birds, bought books and BirdTalk magazines. We did this for a year. During this time I would frequent a tiny, local pet shop (though I wouldn’t really call it a “pet shop” since it was family-owned and local to the area with only one teensy shop in existence) called Tropical Encounters. They had snakes and iguanas and dragons and exotic fish and ferrets and the occasional litter of kittens and always, always birds. Finches, canaries and parrots. I befriended many of the larger birds because they weren’t as wary of me as the smaller birds. One day in the summer of my 16th year they had a brood of new baby cockatiels and I would visit the shop as often as I could to see the brood and talk to them. When my parents decided to let me have one, we went to the shop and I went to the brooder and put my hand inside. The babies cried to be fed, bobbing their heads and a few crowded my hand, but lost interest when they realized I had nothing to feed them with. Only one baby stuck around, nudging and nuzzling my fingers. He chose me and I said “I like him.” We put down a deposit on him and I have no idea how they kept track of all the different babies because they all looked the same at that point and they didn’t band their ankles. At one point during his weaning, he took his first flight and careened into a glue trap for ants. He damaged several of his flight feathers and lost many of his contours on his left side. All I had to do was look for the victim of the glue trap to know which of the babies was mine. When he was weaned the following September after my birthday in August and I could finally take him home, it was two or three weeks after I had had my wisdom teeth excavated from my face. I was dopey from painkillers and generally in a bad mood because of a dry socket infection. He made me feel better just by looking at me. He was still all raggedy looking from the incident with the glue trap and he was just adorable. I had his cage all spiffied up with toys and perches and food and water waiting for him. I spent the first few weeks with him every waking hour, handling him as often as he wanted to be and feeding him from my hand to gain his trust. During those weeks of getting to know him, he showed his quirky personality, like his fascination with my toes (he still sings to them) and waddling around everywhere and climbing all over me like I was a tree to be explored. I named him Matisse, after Henri Matisse, the eccentric French artist. I frequently visited Tropical Encounters, to visit with Carline (the owner) and the birds there. On one visit I met a female blue-headed Pionus named Jewel. She was a very mellow hen and let me hold her and stroke her breast and head and cheeks and touch her beak and feet. I went to my mom and dad raving about this bird called a blue-headed Pionus. I spent the following year learning everything I could about Pionus and when I was 17, I found a local breeder of Pionus, African greys, red-bellies and Senegals through an ad in the back of a BirdTalk magazine. We visited her and were introduced to her two or three breeding pairs of Pionus, one of which was brooding a clutch of eggs. We put a deposit down for a baby. When the clutch hatched and was given to a hand-feeder, we were allowed to see the babies during feedings. When the babies were old enough to be handled, I was allowed to choose one. The babies were put in a towel-lined bin after a feeding and I sat at the hand-feeder’s kitchen table with them. They all climbed out and wandered around. One came straight to me. He chose me and I said “I like this one.” These babies were banded, so my information was taken down with the baby’s band number. A blood sample was taken and sent to be DNA sexed. The results came back that my baby was a male. I would visit him as often as I was allowed and get to know him after feedings. He was a very mouthy baby and liked to chew and pull and generally play very raucously. I named him Ares, after the Roman/Greek god of war/mischief because he was noisy (not loud) and liked to play rough. When he was weaned, I took him home and got him settled. He liked to be handled more than Matisse and we did everything together. And he sure lived up to his name; he was far, far noisier than the ‘typical breed standard’ that was described. During the first year I had him (my 18th year), I reached a very low point in my life. I attempted suicide one night driving home from a friend’s house after dark. I was sobbing, feeling terrible and just not wanting to deal with my life anymore. I started to gradually turn the wheel, edging the car toward the on-coming lane of traffic. As I was drifting slowly into the middle lane, thoughts of my younger brother came to me first. What would he do without me? Then I thought of my parents. What would they do without me? I thought of my friend who’s house I’d just left. What would she do without me? I thought of the other car I was going to hit. What would the driver’s family do without them? Then I thought of my birds. What would THEY do without me? I swung the car back into my lane and drove the rest of the way home a hysterical sobbing mess, feeling horribly guilty that I EVER entertained the notion of leaving my precious boys behind by committing suicide. But soon after Ares’ first birthday (my 19th year) and his first-year molt, when he’d grown into his adult plumage and all his flight feathers, my world was shattered when he escaped me outside. Thursday, June 1, exactly 12 noon. I went to get the mail. I had him close to me with his feet held firmly between my finger and thumb. But a bird passing overhead spooked him and he got away from me. He had all his flight feathers and his flight muscles were well-developed from flying around my bedroom (door closed) for exercise. I stood in the driveway dumbstruck and hoped he’d just land in the backyard and scream for me to rescue him. But he kept flying and made a right. I raced after him, through my backyard and the neighbor’s. He made another right and disappeared down the neighbor’s side yard. I chased him through the side yard and caught a glimpse of his red-tipped tail disappearing over the neighbor’s roof across the street. I literally collapsed in the street, now fully understanding the meaning of “I was numb.” I honestly could not feel my body or comprehend anything going on around me, much less form anything remotely close to coherent thought. I was completely and utterly detached from reality. I couldn’t breathe, I couldn’t see, I couldn’t hear, I couldn’t feel, I couldn’t think, other than the phrase “I lost him” repeating over and over in my head. I cried day and night for two weeks, putting out flyers and searching all over the city of Ogden and the tiny town of North Ogden for him. My mom asked me one night if I wanted to get another bird and I practically screamed “No!” because the thought of “replacing” him was appalling. On a Friday night of the second week, I got a phone call from a lady named Becky. She said “I saw your flyer. Have you found your bird yet?” I said “No, have you?” She said “No, but I have a proposition for you.” The following Saturday, I went to her house and met her 4-year-old Jenday conure, Tipsy. She named him that because when he was a baby he would tip over when he walked. Normally, she said, he’s a mildly anti-social, territorial one-person bird (and a fantastic flier, I might add). I offered my hand to him and he came to me immediately. Becky was amazed. My mom and dad just smiled because, I don’t know…I’m not afraid of being bitten and I guess whatever animal I encounter can sense my fearlessness and in turn aren’t afraid of me, and my parents call it something like an ‘uncanny ability’ or ‘sixth sense’. I spent a week, maybe two, going over to Becky’s house almost every day to see Tipsy. She couldn’t care for him properly anymore because her daughter’s husband was abusive to him and they were living with Becky and her husband at the time. She offered to let me take him for free. I felt a connection to Tipsy and assured my mom that I wanted to take him. Needed to. On a Friday afternoon, I prepared Ares’ cage for Tipsy and moved it into the (finished) basement for a standard 30-day quarantine. That evening, I brought him home with me and introduced him to his new home. Caring for him and gradually introducing Matisse to him kept my mind from dwelling on Ares, even though I’ve kept a lookout for him every day since 2006. Tipsy is 8 years old now and Matisse is 4. Ares would be 3. The hardest part is not knowing what happened to him. I still blame myself for it…if I had only clipped his wings, if I hadn’t taken him outside with me. But then, I think to myself, if he hadn’t gotten away from me, Tipsy wouldn’t be in my life. Tipsy has healed the wound Ares left, but the wound will never completely heal. It still bleeds every now and then as I continue to cope with the guilt. But Matisse and Tipsy keep me going. I’m 23 now, soon to be 24. Every day, I get out of bed for my birds. Every day, I keep living for my birds. If not for them, I’m not sure I would be alive today. Right now, as I type this, Tipsy and Matisse are napping contentedly. I look at them and tears come to my eyes. Pain and longing for Ares, but overwhelming love and gratitude for Tipsy and Matisse. They give me purpose in life. It’s because of them that I am going to be pursuing a career in veterinary technology, ornithology and wildlife rehabilitation, specializing in birds (of all kinds). I live, quite literally, for birds. For my boys. I will never stop living for them. For them.

Candice C
Caroline Wood

A lot of people just don’t understand. It is more than “just a bird” it is a friend, beloved pet and member of the family. Parrots are super intelligent!

Caroline Wood
Melissa Allen

The mess the cost the noise…it is nothing compared to the good morning mommy I get in the mornings when all 6 get up and waiting for breakfast or the chirps I get when they hear me come home. They are the most amazing animal alive.

Melissa Allen

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